I still dont understand it, which is probably why Im still very nervous about having kids. I have had a lot of thoughts about Father's Day because my father passed away on May 23 about a month ago. Women have mothers too! Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. We all do., The relationship between mothers and daughters is at the heart of this talk from Elder Ballard. However, I am concerned about the implications of a people where the female population dislikes the concept of motherhood or at least dislikes it enough that they do not want to celebrate Mother's Day. Diversity and Unity in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, Environmental Stewardship and Conservation, Joseph Smiths Teachings about Priesthood, Temple, and Women, Peace and Violence among 19th-Century Latter-day Saints, The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage, Translation and Historicity of the Book of Abraham. I actually gave two sacrament meeting talks on Mothers Day during our childless/infertile years. Great survey. ( Bonus: You get to visit Relief Society and YW! I meant an ideal not an idea! It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. I'd had a challenging morning, but somehow, my 3-year-old-daughter was decked out and ready for church on time. *As I type this, I know for a fact that someone out there is going to respond that their ward gives men plants for Fathers Day every year. Mothers, we acknowledge and esteem your faith in every footstep. Questions and Answers about the Sacrament, Remember Jesus Christ during the Sacrament, The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part1: Loss and Christian Reformations), The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part2: A New and Ancient Covenant), Sharing Time: Be Grateful for the Sacrament, Viewpoint: The Sacred Ordinance of the Sacrament, Young Men, Teach about the Sacrament, Brother Beck Says. Make it a FUN day!!! I too have wrestled with the infertility monster and MD was always a nightmare. And home teachers were not comfortable giving flowers or candy to a single sister. I was supposed to talk two weeks ago on the purpose of the Sacrament but ended up in surgery instead, and upon returning to church last Sunday was asked to reschedule. Examples? I plan to skip church on Mothers Day morning to visit my mother in the home and I will receive my Masters Degree that afternoon! Because children can be wayward we should not celebrate parenthood. Latter-day Saint Life. could have had us all come to earth as adults, but instead we came as infants needing 24 hour care to survive; there must be something we need to learn from being dependent on parents, and 4) share some motherhood quotes. Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. Do you also not need an idea such as the Savior, your Father in Heaven or your Heavenly Mother? If you take one thing away from this not-so-scientific survey, it is, when in doubt, go with chocolate. My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. Set them up outside the chapel, or in the kitchen or sometime. LDS Mother's Day Gift Ideas: Great Gifts for LDS Women Mother's Day Cupcake Flower Card Mother's Day Gift Ideas: 10 Ways to Show Your Love on Mother's Day Mother's Day Chapstick Idea Mother's Day Questionnaire & Gift Idea Mother's Day Gift Idea: Candy Necklaces Mother's Day Treat Tags Mother's Day gift idea: Candy Flower Bouquets Categories Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! They may have services on Holy Mother Mary but then again, she left her son behind in Jerusalem and didnt even notice she had forgotten him for quite some time before going back to look for him so not sure about her mothering skills ;)). As a member of our bishopric, I assigned the topics for this weeks talks, all motherhood focused, and I have forwarded your paragraph with Elder Eyrings quote to each of them. This cup is the new testament in my blood, which is shed for you (Luke 22:1920). In order to equally celebrate Fatherhood , the males (12 years+) all get Nachos on Fathers Day (served up by the RS Presidency.). No fuss, no muss. Well done! Mother's Day Last year I used the last verse of "Teach Me to Walk in the Light" and the song "Teacher/Mother Do You Love Me" for the Mother's Day Primary songs in sacrament meeting. It falls short when it is not delivered with love, patience, acceptance, humility, an understanding of the limitations of REALITY, and the the Gift of the Holy Ghost. Our new bishop, for the last three years, gave no gift or acknowledgement. I love that song but our ward music coordinator has musical numbers lined up already. Classic! "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". Many times, it seems bishoprics want to put women on a pedestal for a day, while trying not to offend anyone. A day focused on mothers is hard enough for many women, and much more so when thats all they hear about at church. The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mother's Day. Elder Perry uses personal stories and memories of his own mother to illustrate the importance of teaching the gospel inside the home. The best MD talk was from a woman who gave a list of all the things she wished she had known when she was 18. What would happen, if, at the start of sacrament meeting on Mothers Day, the bishop announced that there would be two separate meetings. Primary kids singing, oh, 12 songs, and then someone real standing up and talking about the incredible power of hope, even when we feel that we dont measure up, and the wonder of the atonement and Gods love for us. All The broken bread is a reminder of His body and His physical sufferingespecially His suffering on the cross. THAT is what non-denominational Christian churches do :). We already talk about the topic, motherhood, every Sunday. One thing I would add is that somehow we need to stop telling LDS women that they need to do everything in 6 days and 90% income with smiles on their faces and do it better than their non-LDS peers. He did not have any high-profile ward or stake calling at the time, not that it matters. A friend once proposed a thought experiment. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. At the end theyll get a rose with some message tied onto the stem with ribbon about how Jesus loves all women. At my ward the angel mothers were to aspire to. And I did use some of the suggestions here. They seemed to love the tradition and I never received negative feedback. In preparation for the sacrament each week, Church members take time to examine their lives and repent of sins. Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ lives.feed my sheep, etc. You wouldnt give a talk in a single adult ward about the joys of scouting. Book of Mormon Scriptures on Mothers. The other auxiliaries are free to do something, its just the bishopric that doesnt. Your ward contains women at various stages of their lives, including some who dont have children and never will. In honor of Earth Day, you could throw in the topic of Mother Nature also! Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. I only wish my daughter could come in for graduation I am sure we would skip church together that morning! Why..thank you! Ive endured (and thats the right word) too many Mothers Days that were awful, meaningless, and unrealistic. Oh yes, Ive read the scriptures to be like Him, to be perfect. Seriously, it would be nice to have some idea. On Sunday Morning my sister and I drove almost 2 hours each way to go visit my maternal grandmothers grave. 1 Dead, 1 Injured in Shooting During LDS Sacrament Meeting in Nevada. So for over a decade, Ive loved Mothers Day, just because I know it wont end with all of us crying. I have nine children, eight grown, am temple divorced and remarried to a nomo. We've gathered five inspiring gifts for Latter-day Saint women to help them feel cherished and celebrated. I have suggested the donate-money-to-the-shelter thing for about four years now; it gets a blank stare, followed by a startled, oh! Come on. Sacrament meetings include music, talks, testimonies and prayers. One of my favorite talks ever wasnt a Mothers Day talk but was given by a mother talking about mothering (we were on vacation, so didnt know the woman speaking). Ill be checking back! Not all women can become real mothers. Steve P, She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. I would love to avoid Mothers Day meetings, just because they are usually tedious, but I love to go for the sake of seeing my kids sing. I remember long ago a young woman spoke on Mother's Day and described her mother as "the mean mother". Theres got to be a way to show a little appreciation and recognize their importance and significance without it being guilt-inducing. Ere the sun goes down, The average of the survey said their bishopric probably spends about $1 per sister for Mothers Day gifts. Thats why youve been my cyber-crush for years. Women are saved in child bearing is good as always. rockpond After church we can give dear old dad a cookie in a baggie and a kick in the pants, call it good for another year, and send him home. As a mother of six kids, Ive had some serious depression about motherhood in general over the years but not usually on Mothers Day. Be patient with her imperfections, for she has them. More importantly, what impact does this conscious attempt to devalue motherhood within our community have on the future of the family? I wish you were speaking in my ward! Alma 56:47-48. In the UK, my experience has been that sacrament has at least one talk and often a few. The speakers were: 70-year-old married sister w/ no children; mid-30s sister who works full-time, dh is the stay-at-home parent, and theyve adopted 2 children through the foster care system; and a single sister. #109 Rayloved the roller coaster quote on motherhood. I am 70 years old and have never been a mother, but I had one. I dont think it would occur to anyone to give a man a plant for Fathers Day *, but its very common to give women plants for Mothers Day. Gospel Q&A: My Children Have Left the Church & I Worry for Their Souls. Nothing, wakes people up in sacrament meeting like talking about chimpanzees dismembering each other. Let's apply your logic standard to other holidays. More often than not, his assumption is correct. At first I was wishing that I wasnt, but after thinking and praying about it for a few weeks and speaking with friends and family, Im rather excited about it. EOR, I would venture to say, even with being fairly new to BCC that few here mean to give offense. Dont take us out of Primary to go eat Treats! And, even worse, we are also cutting them off from the grace and redemption that Jesus offers. No love in mortality comes closer to approximating the pure love of Jesus Christ than the selfless love a devoted mother has for her child.. Serious question for everyone, just out of true curiosity: How many of these horror stories happened in the last five years? Snickers. Replies to my comments Rockpond, is this separate from a Primary Program? Ancient Romans and Greeks would celebrate Cybele / Rhea, the mother of the Gods with festivals in the spring time. I must let my voice be heard, I don't think it bodes well. It was perhaps the best talk I gave as a bishop. don't get me wrong, I'm not bragging. I also choose to focus on the women in the scriptures like #30 has mentioned. The sacrament provides an opportunity for Church members to ponder and remember with gratitude the life, ministry, and Atonement of the Son of God. Church meetings Sacrament Meeting Overview To find a ward near you, try the Meetinghouse Locator, which will also provide sacrament meeting times, driving directions, and contact information. #28 Love the song choice of I Have Work Enough To Do as a tribute. :( Everyone can just disregard parts that may sound harshor disregard the comment altogether I reckon. Sorry I missed that. How can a father raise a happy, well-adjusted daughter in todays increasingly toxic world? I dont go to be honored or get a gift. Preparation Print the song pages. Yes. You can still give the women the day off. Kind of it takes a village/ward to raise a child philosophy. Im not going tomorrow. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. I chuckled, but was not surprised when I saw that chocolate was the most popular! Then it gives them the option to (1) print traditional paper programs, or (2) give members access to a digital version of the program on their phones. Have a young child, a teenager, husband and elderly father take you through the different phases of motherhood in their own point of view. I should clarify that my mother (and father) are wonderful and I have no complaints. Well, counselor x/counselor y is in charge of May, I dont know what hes doing for sure . I hope Sunday goes well for you. I have no aversion to motherhood being spoken of in church. I come to church to be fed spiritually, and sappy poems and stories are never ever going to measure up to the meat that scriptural examples can provide. Ere the sun goes down: My grandmother is my ideal of both a woman and a mother, but she was married to an alcoholic so I understand if she is not the ideal for others. I have work enough to do, I think it turned out great. I loved it! (If you want to see an example, search mormon tax exemption on Twitter.) Or any talk. I remember something I was told many years ago by a young man in Provo, UT. I may have to borrow that. Questions & Answers: What am I supposed to think about during the sacrament? Im catching up on the comments, but Kristines suggestion in #72 is perfect. I remember my dad saying it was one of the most powerful and real talks hed ever heard in a Mormon church meeting. It was a great idea and something I will always remember and a great way to honor mothers on Mothers Day. This is a tradition of man, and sometimes it is just a bad idea. I would expect him to give a talk like that because he is so utterly black and white in his thinking and he never heard a strict utterance over the pulpit that he did not love. Classic! I found out the hard way after a long list of them declined to give the talk. I am aware of a seminary/institute teacher who is apparently of the firm and unshakeable belief that a pile of pizza must be provided each week without fail. This change wasnt well-received as it occurred without any advance notice. Maybe we should do it eucharistic-like so I dont have to feel guilty? I dont know how that worked out for him. Regarding the giveaways: in my ward for the last several years, all of the women have been given chocolates on Mothers Day (very nice ones). Crowd-sourcing request each year when I plan the Mother's Day sacrament meeting I feel an extra bit of pressure to make it special for our wives and mothers. When we value families so strongly we should celebrate the roles of motherhood and fatherhood. If my kids are with me on MD I go, but FD is just too painful. I only mentioned Mothers Day once, and I said how much my mom hated the hypocrisy of Mothers Day, and that we should treat women right every day of the year, not give platitudes one day of the year. They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. One of her favorites: Im so bad when daddy comes home, Is it apeople incapable of focusing on the joy of others? Don't subscribe Most detested thing, 3rd hour chatting and eating. The story of Martha and Mary each bringing important and valuable things, even though they were very different. I think its terribly sad that growing up Mormon, I never heard anyone make any serious attempt to talk about Heavenly Mother on Mothers Day. I love your idea of wearing different color of flowers. A nod to moms but no pedestal worshiping. It was so honest and hopeful all at once. As I journey on my way, It is a simple answer, and it is trueThe most important thing a father can do for his [daughter] is to love [her] mother.'. The Barker Brothers' Projects These videos were created for Latter-day Saint parents and allies to voice their love for their LGBT brothers and sisters, sons and daughters. Give the gift of time. We got the story about women blessing their cows a couple of years ago. Enter your email address to follow BCC and receive new posts by email. One of my talks I focused on Moses and the 5 women at the beginning of his life and the different roles they played: Shiphrah & Puah, the midwives who saved his and countless other Hebrew boys lives, Jochebed his birthmother and what it must have taken to put him in the basket and shut the lid (shes a stronger woman than I am! Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. Alece, I also love CS Lewis, and agree that we should look to higher ground in our mortal journey. 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood, Church Leaders Honor Mothers Over the Holiday Weekend, Church Releases Tribute to Mothers, You Are Enough, FREE Happy Mothers Day Coloring Page Printable, The Family is a Divine Blessing | 6 March 2023, Come Follow Me Recap Thy Faith Hath Saved Thee | 5 March 2023, Miracles Come Through Fasting | 4 March 2023, Young Latter-day Saint Missionary Passes Away in Georgia, 5 Things You Didnt Know About the Day the LDS Church Was Organized. Ive been jinxed. Where everyone else is happy and interested in celebrating motherhood - those terrible males and those rancorous children in particular - they need to be denied for "me" and "what I want". As the son of a mother who was destroyed every Mothers Day, and seeing many similar experiences here, I plan to stick to the Christ-centric meeting next year. (Sorry to barge in madhousewife). Heres my updated version: Im so glad when Daddy comes home, Today the sacrament is an ordinance in which Church members partake of bread and water in remembrance of Jesus Christs atoning sacrifice. It seems like awareness and knowing your audience as mentioned before, is half the battle. He gets points for effort and most humorous and memorable! I havent had a bad Mothers Day since I divorced my ex and the day stopped being about making my kids miserable so that he could appear to be a good husband. It is as if we cannot celebrate anything because if we focus on single day to celebrate one person then we have decimated everyone else. The "Sacrament Meeting Program" app provides users a quick, easy way to create their sacrament meeting programs. 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LDS Mom Launches Exciting New Party Game. Modal title . My mom still to this day says it was the best Mothers Day talk ever. Which isnt necessarily a bad thing. Ere the sun goes down: Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. I had some ideas but didn't want to repeat anything that had already been done from the Primary. My husband told me to stop focusing on myself and think about who mothered me instead. Im amazed that we arent using the most recent conference materials . The deacons hand out small potted plants to all women 12+ years, then the sisters eat cake in Relief Society (served up by the RS presidency.). Show me a sinless mother and she can be my ideal too. Why is that or is that just in my ward? Although with good intentions, speakers usually put mothers and motherhood on a pedestal ("Mothers are loving and caring and naturally nurturing", "A mother's love is the closest thing to Christlike love on earth", "No mother is perfect, except my mom, who is literally an . Those who are solely focused on their own selfish desires? I do look forward to handing the kids over to my husband for the day, but Ill take a pass on sacrament meeting. There is a *big* difference a HUGE difference between being *foreordained* to something and actually **BEING** something, as is made very clear in the temple. I agree with #15youth speaker, song and chocolate and the rest of the meeting devoted to Christ. Ive taken as the Ward Music Chair person and conductor to pick hymns and have a couple special musical numbers, but does anyone have any ideas for a small token we could pass out to the men? At least half the ward was so embarrassed for her at this point that they looked as if they wanted to crawl under the benches. In this talk, Elder Holland focuses on three different experiences that reflect the majestic influence of mothers. The first is a cautionary tale, where a friend who was drifting away from the Church expressed he could not stand the thought of facing his deceased mother. But in Argentina, where Mothers Day is in October, they also tended to recognize International Womens Day (March 8) even in church (in addition to a wide variety of other holidays Childrens Day, Grandparents Day, etc.). I accidently hit the quote button and so nothing is there..you guys can fill in the blank.. My wife and I will be on an Alaska Cruise. Im sorry too for the harshness In my expression in a previous thread regarding your views of sacrament meeting. This is something better done away with. I am on the Speakers Bureau for the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) and we would welcome the donations too. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. Why are women so disenchanted with motherhood when we value it so highly? Weve gathered this collection to help you study, write talks, and share powerful LDS quotes about mothers. The US holiday was only adopted in 1870 and was also used to protest the sacrifices mothers had made when their sons were killed at war or killed the sons of other mothers during the Civil War. Submitting to the will of the Father, He suffered more than we can comprehend: Blood [came] from every pore, so great [was] his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people (Mosiah 3:7). If you want to hear about angel mothers and perfect people, remain in the chapel. I know I dont have any say on when the thread closes, but it would be interesting to hear feedback from how each persons respective wards handled MD, and how the people assigned to talk felt their messages were delivered and/or received. They are there, you just have to do a little digging. lesson about prayer. 2. She used several stories from the NT about Christ & his mother Mary to illustrate principles that we can all use to improve our relationships with others. I think its good to have something to air at! This is Elder Hollands second appearance on this list of LDS talks on motherhood. And, as your mother, I will miss the delicious pie during a relaxing third hour of church. What do you think should be handed out for Mothers Day? Drunk as he could be. The Mothers Day talks in my singles wards have been quite sensitive to childless women, but still pretty women-on-pedestalsy. Actually, Ive never heard anything about Heavenly Mother beyond, Isnt it so wonderful that we believe in a Heavenly Mother?!. Gag. Local leaders are ministering to them at this time," Church spokesman Eric Hawkins said. Im sure that attendance in RS would be higher on that day though. Not that I am anything special, but I gave a Mother's Day talk when I was a bishop that was so well-received even my own mother loved it. Honoring Fallen Parents: The Fifth Commandment and Romans 3:23 The Fifth Commandment enjoins: "Honor thy father and thy mother." Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. And, invariably, as soon as I would send one on his way, Im not a mother, thank you, another would pop up at my elbow, dutifully, kindly twisting the knife.