Am I only the one who does not miss my ex husband of 14 years? “I’ve dated other people since this one ex, but she is the only woman I’ve known who truly shared my sense of humor. (1) You suffer from Stockholm Syndrome: Stockholm Syndrome is a psychological condition when the victim is made to develop a crazy empathy for the … TL;dr - My Ex broke up with me 7 years ago, because of my mistake. I am happy, but find myself constantly thinking, dreaming and wishing my ex was around. At first, she resisted(Conservative family), but she said yes. All the time.” — Mike, 23, 15. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. I keep thinking she will ask me back. I started regretting that it was because of me that we broke up. “I miss my ex because she was a cheerleader for my lifestyle. Give yourself … I read a very beautiful meme on Facebook a couple years ago, dance with God and he’ll let the perfect man cut in. “I miss the way she fit in my arms. But somehow you need to find a way to move on. Allowing yourself to treat yourself kindly can really help getting over that sad, missing feeling. I regret waiting for so many years. Was coming out of depression gradually. 10. I hate feeling like I am a prisoner to my emotions. I know know how you feel. I was married to a narcissist and I was his codependent supporter. “Sunday nights. Y confessed that he has feelings for her too. Voila. By subscribing, you agree to the terms of our Privacy Statement. You may unsubscribe at any time. I couldn’t do that to my wife, we want to have kids and we don’t want to do it on a teacher’s salary. I was pursuing Chartered Accountancy course(One of the hardest course in India) and again drowned myself in studying for 4 years. I cant seem to get him out of my mind. I go … You actually go into a state of withdrawal when you come out a broken relationship. I don't know what to feel. You might even want him back. I’m in my sweatpants Friday evening to Monday morning. I still deep down care for my ex and can't get over her. I cry every single night. Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. The same sweatpants. But I didn't communicate this to her as I was ashamed of my failure in the exam. But even then, I didn't understand the intensity/severity of her mental/emotional turmoil. Our relationship continued, but there was a communication gap. I also studied harder for my exams and cut contact with her 1 month before my Final exams(didn't tell her the reasons). Treat yourself kindly, go out to the movies, order in. I told him I am through with him and his cheating ways. Whether it be a piece of jewelry, a shirt, or some other wearable item, finding your ex decked out in a former gift definitely means he or she still … I WhatsApp'd her in March, but she didnt respond, we talked for 5-10 mins but nothing special. Submit your writing to be published on Thought Catalog. I was in 12th grade at the time and I failed one of my prelim exam 6-8 months before my board exams(equivalent to US SATs). francia September 18, 2018, 2:13 pm. I told Y everything about my relationship with my ex. But she didn't know that I had failed my prelim exams and still didn't tell her. I am going through the SAME exact thing. But I wish I could give it up and teach English to underprivileged kids. After all this, she talked to me even though some days I ignored her. “My ex was that rare girl who wanted sex more than I did. So for us, dance with the goddess or God and they’ll let the perfect woman cut in. I know my mom is disappointed she won’t see me married when she dies.” — Peter, 20 . She told me that I was not with her when she needed me the most, and it was my fault that we broke up. What does missing your ex mean? I miss being close to her and holding her hand. I know I come out as a bad guy, but it wasn't my intention, I was just fucking immature to understand any of this. Chrissy is the author of What I Didn't Post On Instagram and a poetry book, We Are All Just A Collection of Cords. “I miss her when I miss someone touching me. I was over the clouds and started taking her for granted. But, most parts of our conversation took place on text(SMS). Sometimes I think I love her. Then came lockdown but we didnt talk. “I miss my ex because she was a cheerleader for my lifestyle. We email some and text. Like most of you who are currently overwhelmed with emotion and want to get back with your ex boyfriend, she was giving her ex absolute power over her emotions and well-being. This guided journal will help you move on. But when I’m sick — that’s when I feel like I’ve made a mistake. I see him now and then. Process every stage of your breakup: shock, denial, grief, sadness, insecurity, and anger while feeling supported and loved through your pain. I went into deep depression from 2017-2019(for various other reasons such as study load/hypochondria/extreme low self confidence-as I was bullied in 7/8th grade). I dated one girl in particular who always wanted to be touching when we were together, just little caresses to show her love. And when you’re strong in your relationship with people, they will definitely deepen your relationship with God because God is genuine love. We were in love. Im missing my Ex girlfriend from a few years back out of nowhere. My ex and I have been broken up for a year and 4 months. None of us gets married thinking we will get divorced. A month later, I got to know she is with X guy(read para1-the guy who asked her out before me). I really miss that.” — Andy, 22, 5. I thought I wanted freedom, and I do 6 days a week. I told Y to set me up with her. Once I even confessed that I liked another girl but never made a move on her. “I broke it off with the last girl because I could tell she was wanting things to get serious and I didn’t. “We’re recently broken up, so what I miss probably has more to do with missing a relationship in general than missing her specifically. “I miss having a reason to get out of the house. Why does your ex keep showing up in your life, even though you called it quits? I don't understand why i'm feeling this way ex after all the awful and horrible things he's done to me. I told Y everything about my relationship with my ex. I barely get to see my kids and miss them so much. I wouldn’t trade her for anything, but I miss the way my ex understood me in that way.” — Jason, 28, 6. I told Y, to ask her about me, whether she misses me or not. Why Am I still in love and missing my abusive ex? Why am I still sad and missing my ex-husband, after breaking up 3 years ago. I can’t see why this relationship would go on so long, if it wasn’t something real. “When I just got out of college I spent time traveling the world with barely any money. She started talking to me again. And since not everything with him … I confessed that it was her and then I proceeded to ask her out. Here are the 5 most common explanations: 1. I wish I had someone to put their arms around me and make me feel loved.” — Morgan, 29, 9. I’m a better person when I have a girlfriend.” — Stephen, 29, 17. I contacted Y. I told him everything I was feeling. You may feel wrong and guilty when you miss or even think about a toxic ex, but here is why it's OK to still be slightly affected by a breakup even years after the fact. But I resisted. Breakups are one of the most traumatic things that can happen in our adult lives — but we still embark on new relationships, because the pay-off is worth it despite the risks. But I trusted Y being one of my closest friends at that time. This is a subreddit dedicated to promoting discussion about the philosophy of love and relationships! Now might be a good time to start dating yourself, as if we’re. So I started talking to her again, and listened to her and provided her support as and when needed(Very selfish of me). She kept telling me: “Adrian I miss my ex boyfriend so much, please help me get back together as this breakup is destroying me and I am so unhappy”. Sometimes she used to tell me her problems but I used to belittle/not understand exactly what she was going through. It's normal and okay to miss your ex, and it doesn't say anything bad about you. It’s pretty normal and you can use this to your advantage after a successful No Contact. “I was recently broken up with by a girl I loved. I miss him so much and think of him every single day. “I miss her when I’m with my family. Using my throwaway account for obvious reasons. It doesn't mean anything other than the fact that you miss something and someone that was important to you and had a meaningful impact on your life. After 2 months she broke up with X. Y started talking to her more. We broke up almost a year ago, he treated me really bad and when I was in the relationship with him all I wanted to was to be free from him. I'm going crazy thinking about him. Waking up from a dream about an ex can be jarring. Learn more about working with Thought Catalog. Your support group of best friends tell you to steer clear of contact with them. Make this guided journal your trusted friend during your journey to feeling whole again. Missing your ex is about feeling sad that someone you love isn't around or isn't connected to you in the same way anymore. If you’ve been in love, you’ve been in this situation before. He miss me why. When I’m watching TV alone I’ll think about how her head would be resting on my lap or on my shoulder. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday. But at that time she was going through some personal problems(her father had died when she was 8 years old and she used to miss him, her friends used to ignore her), but I was not able to understand the intensity of her emotional problems. ... Oh my! It hurts that she still talks to Y and shares everything with her. 10-15 days later, we both had skipped school and started texting, when she asked me about the girl I liked. “Is it going to make me ‘That Guy’ if I say blow jobs? Don't know what to feel. I was under the impression that she would wait for me until my exams are over. 1. I found myself thinking about a girl I met while I was traveling and who I traveled with for awhile. Then came a new neighbour, let's call him Y(Male). But honestly, I can’t get him out of my mind. I wonder what my life would be like if I married someone who was that adventurous.” — John, 35, 13. I like my space, I like being a bachelor. But she still was with X. I asked her why we broke up & what she thought about whose fault it was. She told me she didn't love me but liked me. I told Y to set me up with her. It’s been three years and two relationships later, and I still miss her when I’m horny.” — Mark, 33, 4. I told Y, to ask her about me, whether she misses me or not. If so, you need to shed this illusion before you can move on. The doctor prescribed me antidepressants, but still, to this day no one knows that I was bullied for 2 years(which I think caused me extreme low self-confidence/hypochondria). I was devastated. There are sound psychological reasons why you miss your ex-partner. Many times I hear patients say, “I know he was a jerk and I’m better off without him, but I still miss him and want to see him. We used to meet in the Basement/terrace and hugged/kissed each other every day. “I miss her at night when I’m falling asleep. “I make really good money at a professional job I have a degree in. As soon as my exams got over, I thought I will communicate with her maturely. Is it infatuation(Extremely charming girl)? I moved out in July 2015, just few months ago and every day was a celebration of life for me without my ex. But then I got to know that, she also talked to X(read para1) on a weekly basis. I miss seeing her face. Im thinking about messaging her Friends, (our situations are strikingly similar) to see if it would be a good idea to send her a message but I just dont know yet. I get it. Regardless of what happened to derail your marriage, it can be hard to turn off all of the different emotions you still feel about your ex wife, especially after a long marriage. Had I not shown such immaturity I would still be with her. After joining just yesterday, I am reading my same story. She started talking to me again. No calling them after a … I swear it was all she thought about. I will never be able to love someone as much as I did. You still romanticize them and are holding on to false hope: Is a part of you still clinging on to the hope that they will see the error of their ways, grovel at your feet, and then give you the relationship of your dreams? It hurts to know that I am not that guy. She was raised by hippie parents and kind of hated money. Even after the breakup, I had to see her daily and it killed me to think that she is with my best friend(i stopped talking to him too). No one is there to take care of me and I just feel like a loser in a pile of kleenex, miserable and alone.” — Sam, 29, 14. She still is the most charming/beautiful girl I have ever met. I don't understand why I am not able to get over her even after all these years. My ex really knew what she was doing.” — Jonathan, 24, 7. At that point started having thoughts of him & her being together and made me extremely anxious again. Wailing, the miss-my-ex-boyfriend-cry! That’s just the way it goes. Not been with my ex wife for about 2 and a half years. It is going to be a long post. So, you broke up with your ex and now are missing him like crazy. Things were usually good in the beginning. (She was still with X). And then I’ll think about how she would be complaining about watching baseball and I immediately stop missing her.” — Ben, 27, 16. Why am I still missing my ex? I miss that little bit of excitement about driving home and opening the door and feeling like everything was good.” — Mark, 30. A year after his breakup, one young man explained to me that he would imagine his ex being proud of him when he accomplished a difficult task. She has moved on and got a house and a new bf. I introduced Y to my ex. 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